I generally think that Sanjay "knows exactly what we are saying"... what everything means and how things work. But occasionally I am reminded that he's only 3 and still learning on a daily basis how the world goes 'round and how and where he fits into it.
His vocabulary is developed and I tend to assume that when he uses a word, he actually knows its meaning but sometimes this cannot be farther from the truth. Take this for example... for months the
bedtime routine has ended with him saying to me in an almost tape-recorded monotony, "Will you crack the door open, hold me when I wake up and check on me?", to which I always reply "Of course". Well, last week he added "Mom, what does 'check on me' mean?" out of the blue. I was floored that he'd been using this phrase so long without knowing its meaning, and I literally laughed out loud before explaining that it means I'll come back to look in on him and find him sleeping, with his eyes closed, in case there's any confusion as to what that means.
In trying to figure everything out, he has really grown into the "Why?" stage of development. Everything we say is followed by that lovely question and he doesn't give up until our answer is satisfactory according to his standards. This, coupled with his sassy attitude, compliments of his big sister, lead to conversations like this one in the car today:
Sanjay: "Where are we going?"
Mommy: "We are going to the car store to get a new air filter for Mommy's car."
Sanjay: "Why do you need a new air filter?
Mommy: "Because I do."
Sanjay: "No Mom... why?"
Mommy: "Because the old one is dirty, so I have to put a clean one in."
Sanjay: "Oh"
Sanjay: "Why are we turning this way?"
Mommy: "Because we are going to the car store."
Sanjay: "I know (imagine that said with a smart-a** flair to it), but why are we turning here? Is this the way to the car store?"
Mommy: "Yes, my dear son that is why I am pointing the car wheels in this direction." (fabricated to make myself look better)
Sanjay: "No, this is the way to the milk store..."
Mommy: **trying to change the subject** "How about we stop here and buy some firecrackers for tomorrow?"
Sanjay: "Are firecrackers crackers?"
... and the confusion continues. I realize that its close to lunchtime and so he probably thinks that we're stopping to grab a bite to eat. It's nice to at least see him thinking logically about the linguistics of the words he can't yet comprehend.
Another thing that happened recently which struck me as odd... Priya wanted to find out how strong Sanjay was so she asked him, "Do you think you could carry something that is exactly the same size as me?". And his reply was, "You mean, like another Priya?". As if people have no uniqueness, just like his trucks... if something breaks he can go in the store and find another just like it.
One of these days, he'll have most of it figured out... like his big sister. She knows a lot more about the way the world works and along the way, she has figured out a bit about the way people work, too. She knows about manipulation and how to get others, especially her younger brother, to do what she wants... she only has to work on the self-control to use this instead of her ineffective initial reaction. This morning they were playing with the Lincoln Logs and Sanjay had taken over
all the long pieces. After repeatedly yelling at him, "I need that piece", "Give it to me now" and other similar demanding phrases, she had a brilliant idea. Let me use manipulation. That's when I overheard this much more civilized discussion (absolutely no exaggeration applied):
Priya: "Sanj, do you want me to build something yucky or cool?"
Sanjay: "Cool."
Priya: "Then, I need to use that piece."
Sanjay: "Here you go."
After handing it over to her, they worked together without argument for at least several minutes to build a
really cool house that filled them both with pride.